A Wise Man Once Told Me... - Stigma Clothing UK

A Wise Man Once Told Me...



A wise man once told me, "forget about the money". When I asked what was meant by this, he told me that if I built a business around making as much money as I could then I would find myself, burnt out, mentally oppressed and would ultimately end up failing.

What instead, was I meant to do? He went on to tell me, "base your business plan an you becoming a better man". Admittedly, I liked what he had to say but it did not make sense to me at first. There was so many question's in my head, how did I become a better man? Not that for a single second did I think I was perfect but there wasn't a certain strategy I had in mind when it came to, 'becoming a better man'.


I have struggled most of my adult life and in 2018 was diagnosed with Bi Polar and Attention Deficit Hyper Activity Disorder. The work I had already put into 'trying to become a better man' had already been monumental. A lot of this came down to admitting the type of person I am, how I am meant to deal with my illness and accepting all of it. Self awareness for myself is probably the best attribute I have ever gained.

Was this what the man meant? I asked him and ever the straight forward speaking man that he is, he bluntly told me, "no". This was a far deeper topic than I ever expected when I asked a successful business man his top tip for running a business.   

"I'm baffled", I expressed to him. He then asked me, "what type of man would you like to be in life?" I'd never even thought about this question, as much as I tried I just couldn't think. I was raised mainly by female figures and I know I never had a male influence of which I wanted to base myself on. I never was taught how to 'be a man'. I don't write this in a frustrated manner, yet a surprised manner that at this point in time I had never stopped and thought about this question in my life. 

I couldn't tell him. "There lies your journey to becoming a better man" he replied. The lightbulb then lit above my head. How was I meant to 'become a better man' if I did not know what type of man I wanted to be? That night I sat down and I wrote a list. I titled the list, 'Who I want to be'.
  • Self Aware.
  • Educated.
  • Less worried of what people think of me.
  • I wanted to run my business how I wanted to run my business and not how other people think I should run my business.
  • Loving.
  • Caring.
  • Kind.
  • Helpful.
  • Knowledgeable.
  • A man of my word. 
  • A good husband.
  • A faithful man.
  • A man who respected other peoples views but only accepted what I wanted.

Till this point in my life, had I been any of this? Maybe, the odd few at times but I had not thought about becoming any of them all the time. If I was to meet a man with all of the above attributes how would I perceive him? I'd think he was the best person I'd ever met in my life. A man that I would look up to. A role model. I needed to become the man my 10 year old self needed. 

The whole point of this blog post is to give you an insight on what foundations STIGMA as a business are built on. Not money, not materialism but inspiration. Inspiration from a wise man. The fact is this, not only do we sell the highest quality of clothing but we also strive to be the best at what we do everyday. 

STIGMA is a community. High quality clothing for high quality people. To join this community you don't have to be a 'high quality person' right now but there must be a commitment to start your journey on becoming just that. 

Too many people in my opinion regard quality to wealth. Admittedly, I did when setting up a business based on a goal of earning money before conversing with the wise man I speak of throughout this article. 

Anyone can become high quality person, it all starts and finishes with you. Who do you want to be? Who you are right this very second whilst you read this does not matter. I am not yet the man I wish to be however, I am a better man than I was yesterday. 


  • I listen.
  • I learn. 
  • I read. 
  • I stop.
  • I take a second. 
  • I think. 
  • I use my brain.
  • I concentrate on me.
  • I do not care for what others may think of me.
  • I inspire.
  • I be inspired. 
  • I concentrate on who I want to be. 

Last but not least, do you want to know what the best thing about all of this is? The target moves everyday. This ensures we always have a goal, we never become bored. We never get to our goal and say, what now? Having a goal that you strive to achieve, yet never quite get there but we can look back and see how far we have come is inspiring. 

This starts and ends with you.

Give me one good reason why you can't start this right now?

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