The Rule Of Self Expectancy

The Rule Of Self Expectancy

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At the lowest point in my life, I was a lost soul. I had no drive, vision or expectation. The days consisted of me laying in bed staring at the ceiling, confused.

Having memories of these days are such a fantastic asset to my reinvented outlook on life. There may be people who read these words right now who can resonate to the opening paragraph. When we talk about drive and vision and what they mean to us, it's no surprise that they were non existent without the expectation trait.

Let's for a second look at the world's leading entrepenuers; Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos, Elon Musk, Richard Branson and the late Steve Jobs. These are just a few names I can think of from the top of my head. What do all of these eccentric, yet ingenious minds have in common? They are all human beings. (despite the unfounded claims that Elon Musk is an alien from Mars).

When I refer to these minds as simply human beings, it's wrote in the context of that they have all made some of the exact same mistakes that you and I both have. Yet their social and business status is far more desired than your average working class man. Why? The reason for this being true is that they all share a very simple, yet effective, ability. The ability I speak of is one of self expectancy. They all expect from themselves.

"What are you waffling on about man? Just spit it out."

I hear you.
You see, if we do not expect anything from ourselves, how are we supposed to hold any drive or vision. If your vision was to become a doctor then your self expectancy would be to devote the next 5 years of your life to doing absolutely anything that would secure this vision. Your drive would then become your reward of completing something of which would make your vision a reality.

Now back to the days of zero expectancy. I'd wake up every single morning and expect absolutely nothing. I wouldn't expect to eat. I wouldn't expect to clean. I wouldn't even expect to get out of bed. One year ago this month, I decided this had to change. See, a life without structure is no life at all. When I speak of structure I don't necessarily mean physical implementations i.e. eating healthy, going to the gym or forcing yourself to do something which your mindset may not be ready for right now.

Self Expectancy is based solely around morals. What do I expect from myself?

'my example - I expect to respect myself. I expect to believe in myself. I expect to be true to myself. I expect to treat people how I wish to be treated.'

Do you see the difference between physical expectations and moral expectations? These expectations do not have to last you forever. These expectations can be temporary expectations. Life moves quickly. Therefore, our self expectations may also change rapidly.

The very best thing about all of this, is that there are no rules but our own, to our own self expectancy. Your life, your rules. Your own expectations.

In conclusion to all of this, there is an even greater advancement from self expectancy to one of what we expect from others. However, I will save that for another rainy day but living in the North of the UK, I'd expect that rainy day very soon.
What do you expect from yourself? 

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